Motivation From Your Children

Motivation can sometimes be seen as elusive and often comes from places we likely don’t always understand or anticipate.

Motivation can come from seeing your beloved child working hard to accomplish something – a drawing, an exercise routine, a Rubik’s cube or another task that appears to be very challenging . To see them hard at work, struggling and finally succeeding can motivate you as a parent to do something just as good and possibly better.

We see how satisfied those children feel when they accomplish something challenging and it makes us want to accomplish something ourselves in order to feel the same way.

As a parent it is sometimes difficult to grasp and understand that self-motivation doesn’t always come from yourself. It is indeed a big step in understanding where you can find motivation to get you through the day, the week, or even just this hour as your work tirelessly to improve yourself so that you can positively affect the lives of children.

Whenever you are stumped for motivation or if you’re ever feeling like you just need to sit back and give up for awhile, take a few minutes to reflect on the relationships that you have with your family, especially the children.

Think about how you can use your family to find your motivation to succeed in life and continue turning your environment into something successful and impactful.

There are lots of sources for motivation and it usually doesn’t come from you.

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Successful Parenting Is About Implementing Practical Solutions

The art of successful parenting involves practical solutions for parents, tips for improving communication, building positive relationships and other useful parenting skills in order to develop children's self-discipline and help them become the winners they were meant to be.

To become a "manager of his child's temperament', a successful parent must have an emotionally "neutral" stance, by thinking rationally, rather than become emotionally embroiled in the temperamental difficulties of his child. The adult needs to learn the difference between the temperamentally determined behaviour, and that which is learned, and deliberately manipulative as a means of achieving a selfish outcome.

By understanding and improving the child's attitude and habits, parents will make great strides in enhancing their self- esteem and positive development. There are of course several parenting strategies for very intense children, and parenting strategies for slow-to-adapt children. The children's personality will ultimately develop itself as a reaction to the environment, and a response to the way they are perceived by the others, with parental influence playing a huge role.

The development of a positive self-concept is the corner stone for the successful rearing of children and teenagers. The medium to long term benefits are that it will help them to act independently, assume a responsibility, take pride in their accomplishments, attempt new tasks and challenges, and handle both positive and negative emotions in a proper manner.

Raising children is not “child's play” but parents can go a long way in adding value to the process by fulfilling the role of guardian, mentor and non-critical coach.

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Kids and Goal Setting, Why is it So Important?

This can be great fun, and can make a huge difference in their lives. Goal setting for kids books, worksheets and activities will all help you to introduce this idea to your children. It doesn't matter if you are a parent, teacher, grandparent or friend, if you can encourage the children in your life to start setting goals at an early age, you can have a profound affect on their lives.

But why would you bother with this goal setting activity with kids?

You're busy enough aren't you?

• In today's information age, people are bombarded with so many choices, decisions and options. It's very easy to get sidetracked or to just "go with the flow."? Learning how to set goals at an early age will give your child the tools needed to live a purposeful life. They will be able to make decisions that get them where they want to go instead of just reacting to whatever is in front of them at that moment.

• Most highly successful people are avid goal-setters. Pick up any best-selling book from personal growth gurus and there will be a section dedicated to goal setting. These coaches don't consider goal setting an option; to them it's mandatory if you want to live an amazing life.

• When you take the time to sit down and totally focus on your child, you KNOW how much they love that. This is about more than just Goal Setting, it is about saying how much you love them, and that you care enough about them and their future, that you are prepared to spend time working on it with them. You KNOW what an impact that will have with them. They will love Goal Setting, and feel so proud when they have written their first goal.

• Setting goals can lead to profound feelings of happiness, purpose, confidence and self-worth. Imagine your child being confident because they know that they have the ability to achieve whatever they want to achieve. Imagine how exciting the world would be to them!

Is it not about time that we take a much more serious interest in our children. They are after all, the foundation on which our future will be built.

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Happy, High Achieving, Or Gifted Child – What Is Your Desire?

There seems to be an inner longing from parents to not only have happy, but also high achieving children. They must be able to perform well both academically and socially.

Identification of gifted students is clouded when concerned adults misinterpret high achievement as giftedness. High-achieving students are noticed for their on-time, neat, well-developed, and correct learning products.

Adults comment on these students' consistent high grades and note how well they acclimate to class procedures and discussions. Some adults assume these students are gifted because their school-appropriate behaviours and products surface above the typical responses of grade-level students. But does this necessarily portray the correct picture?

Some educators with expertise in gifted education are frustrated trying to help other educators and parents understand that is imprtant to be academically astute and fully integrated with your social circle.

While high achievers are valuable participants whose high-level modeling is welcomed in classes, they also have a different learning and social interaction style. In situations in which they are respected and encouraged, gifted students' thinking has more diverse perceptions than is typical of their other peers.

To articulate the above differences to educators and parents can sometimes be a challenge. What must be remembered though, is that they are still children after all. Maybe we as parents should just ensure that they grow up to enjoy themselves and become happy kids for life.

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Teaching Children About Discipline And Reward Systems

There tends to be an agreement by most parents that discipline in its more simplistic definition is highly desirable, but it is not so clear whether disciplining children is the best way to help them become more conscientious.

Numerous research papers seems to suggest that punishing children increases aggression and violence within them. Additional evidence also indicate that you acquire more influence with children when you give up trying to use power to control them.

Is it therefore not better that when having a choice between authoritarian control and permissiveness, adults should focus on building self-discipline through influence?

Authority can have multiple meanings, including that based on expertise, based on position or title, or even on power. Children especially, don’t respect power authority, even if they have to obey it, or whether it comes with the traditional reward-and-punish approach. Rewards and punishments are external controls; take away the control, and the behaviour modification disappears

Using rewards for behavior modification is difficult, given the need to reward consistently and almost instantaneously. If a reward seems too far removed in time, it will be less potent. In particular, you cannot prevent children from getting rewarded by others for unacceptable behavior

When children can acquire their own rewards, rewards no longer work for behaviour modification, as it have to be felt as attainable, or children will give up and stop striving

Did the above remind you of your own child, or that of a family friend in your neighbourhood. Are you concerned that you might be losing the war on self-discipline when it comes to children?

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What Is Happiness Really All About?

Everyone seems to be seeking happiness, but most not able to explain what it is in clear and understandable terms. How would you explain happiness to a child?

The dictionaries seems too obscure with its references to; a state of feeling great pleasure, favoured by circumstances, being lucky or fortunate, feelings of contentment, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy.

On the other hand, philosophers and religious thinkers have often defined happiness in terms of living a good life, accompanied by words like pleasure, gratification, enjoyment and feeling good.

At the end of the day, happiness is not just simply a way of living, but living a life of purpose and joy. Happiness is the ability to enjoy life unconditionally, along with the ups and downs of life. Seeing the beauty and joy in things is what makes for a happy life. Happiness is as much a choice as it is a skill. We are all born happy, but somewhere along the way we forget what happiness feels and looks like and start relating happiness to unrelated events.

It is possible to be happy most of the time and you can actually start doing it today.

The most simplest way to become happier is to find something or someone to appreciate at this very moment. It could be the beautiful day, uninterrupted time in your favourite spot in the garden, a beautiful smile by your child or even a stranger. What about a great and refreshing cup of tea, soft music or even the smell from your kitchen.

In the rare circumstance that you are struggling to find anything to appreciate, then simply appreciate the fact that you are breathing and pay attention to that breath. I can almost guarantee that you will feel better right away.

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Tips For Raising Happy Children

Are You struggling to find good information on how to rear happy children? Fear no more as you can check through the following few tips.

The first tip is to realize the importance of modeling happiness. You can’t give something that you don’t have. How can you teach kids happiness if you don’t have it yourself? Some parents think loving their family means living only for them, driving them everywhere, cleaning up after them, and putting their kids’ needs and desires way ahead of their own. Parenting shouldn’t turn us into a short-order restaurant or a cleaning or taxi service. It does for some parents. That teaches kids a bad lesson.

A child who perceives his parent as a servant, someone whose life has meaning only through catering to his whims, learns to be selfish. He comes to believe others exist to do his bidding. I have a friend who was raised like that, and she tells me when she grew up, she kept having the strange feeling, “Where are all the servants?” Being catered to was such an ingrained part of her childhood that adjusting to adulthood was difficult for her, because “the servants” were missing.

Kids who are raised this way tend to feel the world owes them a living. So breaking out of the “doormat” mode, if you’re in one, is pretty central to giving your kid a chance at a smooth transition to happy adulthood.

When you take care of yourself, make time for yourself, and do things that make you happy, your child learns those behaviors from you. If she sees you going for your dreams and making decisions based on your inner truth, she learns that doing those things is good. On the other hand, if you model dropping everything to fulfill her latest dictate, she learns that parenting means self-denial and victimization. She may then become a self-effacing parent herself or go the other extreme and forego parenting entirely because it looks like such a sacrifice.

So to raise happy kids, be good to yourself. Treat yourself with respect and dignity the same as you treat your child. Don’t allow disrespect toward you any more than you’d allow someone to be rude to your kids. Make time for your creative desires and dreams. Plan in some scheduled personal time each week (or day), and make sure that you take it.

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Winsome Coutts holds a teacher’s certificate in education and has written hundreds of articles on self-development. She has studied with Bob Proctor and John Demartini, popular teachers featured on “The Secret” DVD. For additional info that will have an immediate and positive impact on your relationship with your children, please visit

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